You are so CORRECT … sis keeps unconsciously trying to suck me back into the drama triangles.

I walk a fine line between myself and my family … including sis … caring but removed.

I deal with baby bro by NOT talking to him at all.

You take care yourself.

Lyle

my story with my parents mirror yours. My dad had a TIA several years ago, was discovered to have diabetes, given medications and told to lose weight. He lost some, never took medications, then gained all the weight (and more) back. As a matter of fact he died of cerebral hemorrhage just few days before your mom’s heart attack. The difference was, his mom was 90 when she died, whereas he was a whopping 68.

My mom needs knee replacement. ALL the docs she’s been to agreed with this. But my mom thinks she doesn’t. So she keeps on being overweight, not exercising AND stressing her knee… all of this without any plan to get through any surgery. Last time I spoke to her I was like: “Look, you need to have it done. You don’t want to? Fine. But when your knee splits open I don’t want to hear about it”.

Your sister is the problematic one. She obviously chose to “believe” your mom because she (your sister) doesn’t want to change *either*, and she probably thinks she can “save” your mom and stuff. Keep your boundaries firm! Refuse to discuss ANY stress your sister gets from mom, ANY sadness, anything regarding her choice. In other words, give her consequences. It might change her view but that’s not the point. The point is, you need tranquility and people respectful of your boundaries.

Much Love
Ro’